| "You will become as small as your controlling desire; as | | | | fees for their services!). Our limited thinking and |
| great as your dominant aspiration." | | | | expectations will keep us in the work hard mode, |
| ~ James Allen | | | | chugging up our personal hills. Ask for the most you |
| Imagine that you've gotten everything you ever | | | | think you can have – and then double it! The first |
| wanted... the life partner, the house, the car, the clothes, | | | | time you do that, it can be mind-blowing… one of my |
| the physique, the friends, the money, the lifestyle… | | | | clients asked for $4000 in income monthly, which when |
| Now what? | | | | doubled, became $8000. This was inconceivable to her, |
| If you're like most humans, it's likely that you'll sabotage | | | | until she reconciled her books the next month – she |
| yourself in "having it all". We here in the Western world | | | | discovered she actually generated $9000 that month |
| are actually socialized to be in continuous striving; that | | | | for the first time in her life! |
| is, we don't know how to have and enjoy everything | | | | 2. Watch where you are giving. We cannot enjoy our |
| we've worked for and received because if we have it, | | | | own "Havingness Quotient" if we give away all the |
| our culture says we're not working hard enough, or | | | | good stuff. Part of the reason that we are here is to |
| infers that we don't know what to do if we don't have | | | | ENJOY what we are creating. Now, that's not to say |
| tangible goals. | | | | you shouldn't share – I'm all about that! However, if |
| Imagine a train chugging up a steep incline, with its | | | | you are a chronic over-giver (and I know that one |
| engine working hard… when it gets to the top, what | | | | personally!), you need to consider where you are |
| does it do? It goes down – logic says that there's | | | | leaking what you have because it could be draining |
| no other way to go. But what if there WAS another | | | | your "Havingness", which keeps you in overwork and |
| way? What if when the train got to the top, it got to | | | | less joyful for your own benefit. |
| cruise along a plateau rather than drop down? If you | | | | 3. Look at your self-sabotage patterns. The good |
| can now put yourself in that picture as the train, you'll | | | | news about being human is that we can be our own |
| see that you naturally keep working hard (going up) or | | | | observers. We can actually see where we are tripping |
| know how to cope with not having the top (going | | | | ourselves up if we look close enough, because it's a |
| down); however, you likely don’t know how to | | | | familiar pattern. I see clients who go into "drama" or |
| cruise the topmost plateau you've attained. I call this | | | | focus on external "noise" because they don’t know |
| the "Havingness Quotient". It doesn’t exactly roll off | | | | how to handle abundance. Others will go 90% of the |
| the tongue, but it is descriptive. | | | | way and then quit on a nearly successful project, and |
| The higher your "Havingness Quotient", the easier it will | | | | I’ve seen others yet who stay in the preparation |
| be for you to hold on to and enjoy your achievements | | | | for the preparation of the preparation… you get the |
| – and vice-versa. You might even think of this as | | | | idea. They’re not moving forward. It could be that |
| "abundance self-esteem". If you have a low | | | | people don't know how to be if they're not striving |
| "Havingness Quotient", you will proportionately | | | | anymore - they just don't know what to expect if they |
| experience the "downside" of what you want and | | | | have it all. Look at where you are potentially |
| work toward. In that case, you will find yourself | | | | sabotaging your own "Havingness". |
| comfortably in discomfort as you "re-tread" what | | | | My intention is that you receive and enjoy all that you |
| you've always done. So how do you increase your | | | | want and more… because if you increase your |
| "Havingness Quotient"? | | | | "Havingness Quotient" you are living on purpose and |
| Three Things You Can Do Today: | | | | you're setting a positive example which will ultimately |
| 1. Ask for more than enough. Often people don't think | | | | benefit everyone around you. |
| big enough in terms of their own abundance (including | | | | |