| A few years ago, 3 nights before Christmas I received | | | | preceding when ever this thought was created. It then |
| a telephone call from the police, at 11pm. They tried to | | | | undoes those thoughts, feelings and emotions by |
| tell me that my son was dead. I could not hear it. It | | | | destroying the very seed of the thought, and as you |
| was unbelievable. I became hysterical, crying | | | | POC and POD more thoughts, they will get less and |
| uncontrollably. I had lost it - it was such a shock, and | | | | less. This will assist you in becoming present in your |
| such a tragedy. I had been with him 3 days before in a | | | | own life again. |
| family group, when he had flown home from where he | | | | You see, what happens when a tragedy like this |
| was working in Australia, and we had gotten together | | | | happens, is that it takes us out of being present. We |
| to greet him. As we were going to be spending 5 | | | | tend to keep going over and over in our minds, thinking |
| days together for Christmas, we had said our good | | | | about anything that is connected to this person. These |
| byes, thinking that on Christmas Eve we would be | | | | thoughts seem to keep us in a loop, and this loop |
| together again. | | | | keeps us stuck, and unable to move forward in our life. |
| After his death each year, when Christmas came by I | | | | Does any of this make sense to any one who is |
| never felt like celebrating. The pain of the memories | | | | reading this? |
| was too intense. Anybody else around who can relate | | | | When we are "stuck" in a particular area of our life, it is |
| to what I'm saying? | | | | very difficult to move forward and to live a life of |
| Now it's a few years down the track and I know what | | | | happiness and productivity. It is said that time lessens |
| it's like to mourn the loss of someone so dear to you, | | | | the effects, but I have found that it was me that buried |
| that I would like to offer suggestions to anyone who | | | | the pain, rather than that time lessened the effects. |
| has just experienced the unbelievable loss of anyone | | | | The pain could be resurrected at any time and I was |
| who has been a special contribution to their life. | | | | right back into the trauma and grief of my extreme |
| No one can relate or understand what a heartbreak | | | | loss. |
| this is for you. Please know that people are trying to | | | | People tend to give lots of clichés to try and |
| be so helpful and kind in your grieving - that it seems to | | | | offer some comfort. For me, all that did was |
| make you angry. If this happens to you, it is because | | | | exacerbate my anger and I isolated myself further |
| nothing anyone can say can touch you with comfort. | | | | from other people, and tended to become more |
| Here is something that I have tried that has worked | | | | introverted. The only thing that has ever given me any |
| amazingly for me. Would you like to try this? What | | | | form of relief from grief is to POC and POD it. |
| you do is: Every time you think of that person, every | | | | I have more information as to what will assist a person |
| time you start to cry in the excrutiating emotional pain | | | | who is grieving as I am an Access Facilitator. After the |
| you go "POC and POD that". You may have to go | | | | grief has been POCed and PODed a person is able to |
| "POC and POD, POC and POD, POC and POD" a lot | | | | become more present. That's when they ready to |
| of times. But each time you do it, it will start to dissipate | | | | receive information that will assist them to create a |
| the pain and the memories. | | | | different relationship with the person who they are |
| What does POC and POD do? POC and POD stands | | | | grieving. "Creating a different relationship with my loved |
| for the Point of Creation and the Point of Destruction | | | | one who has passed over" is a new target, which I will |
| of the thoughts, feelings and emotions immediately | | | | address in my next article on this subject. |